Good morning from Japan! ??
Scroll down to the last part to read about why I think we should celebrate the “10%” of our entire day (and how it affects the rest of our days). ~
Yay pensive Kaila is back again~!
After building this hobonichi habit for many months, I have realized a lot of things.
I guess that is quite easy to assume that I live an almost 100% perfect life here in JP based on the happy / positive / kawaii things I post on the internet. With all honesty / sincerity, I don’t even want to appear like that. I don’t want my readers or people who follow my accounts to feel envious / jealous about my life. I want them / you to know that even if you are having troubles, you do have control of your life. You can either complain about the things going around you, or you either do something more worthwhile that will lead you to the life of your dreams. Even if you feel small or you think you are powerless, it’s all in the mind. I once thought I would never make a mark “out there” but I changed my perspective. Years later, here I am, attempting to use whatever influence I have to spread openminded-ness.
I am just any other struggling millennial out there, working my way to find that “sweet spot” where I could both enjoy my passion & work. I have bills to pay , a family back home to think of (I’m even getting stressed by the fact that I really want to retire my parents asap), and many more impossible-like dreams. Yes, I do feel discouraged at times too. I feel and acknowledge my failed attempts at life (having a downtime to reflect is important) and I try my best to convert them as my goldmine of experiences I could refer to in the future. I guess what really keeps me going and what makes me this super positive person (even if the world would constantly nag you to have “Reality Check” or tempt you to make a mountain out of a little bad thing) is that for every problem (which I prefer to call as “challenge”).. there must be a solution out there. There has to be. If there is really none, I could change my reaction or the way I think about the outcome. In a day full of crappy events, I would rather choose and focus on that little / tiniest positive thing. I want you to know that it is 100% POSSIBLE to rejoice and celebrate that tiny percentage of positivity / little happy event in your day even if “in reality”, a lot of not-so-good stuff really happened. To give you an example, what you see and read from some of my hobonichi entries are probably just one of those little happy events of the day. Because I developed this appreciativeness / gratefulness through time, I know that the 50-90% not-so-good happenings will be just forgotten in the future… so why should I focus on those? When somebody accidentally bumps you while he/she was playing Pokemon Go.. should that 5-second encounter ruin a good day that you’re blessed with? 🙂
Call me crazy but I’d like to rejoice that one time when I was able to convince myself to do some general apartment cleaning. It was the highlight of the day even if I got really stressed at work & #life that time. I am mindfully choosing to focus my energy on the positives. If it can’t be helped since you are in a negative environment, create your own cheat sheet. I also grew up with a lot of negativity and fighting, but those didn’t hinder me from wanting & aiming to be a genuinely happy person. You don’t have to be selectively happy only when there’s a special event or occasion in your life. You don’t have to only celebrate / blog or write on your journal about the “important” meet-ups, travels, and so much more. You can still celebrate the 10 or even 5/1% good thing that happened (which are also important, by the way..).. and it’s up to you on how you can multiply and enlarge that.
By doing so, you attract more positivity. Positive events, positive people, and a more fulfilling and positive life. In my case, I use creativity, washi tapes, stickers, and my diary.. hehe. ^^
I love my life right now even if I am really, really struggling. Might as well enjoy the entire rocky journey while I’m on my way there. I don’t want to waste my days focusing on the distractions. Life may tempt me to complain & be ungrateful everyday but this woman has better things to do. ^^