Hello everyone! こんにちは！
Finally, I can sit down and take a breath from everything.
I love days like this at home when I can have the time to do things for myself. : )
The past few weeks have been such a whirlwind!
(unrelated photo above, lololol but yay KPP)
I was supposed to write down just "Top 5 Things I Learned This 2014" .. but I learned more... I guess? : )
... anyway, let's start!
This 2014, I learned ...
1. The Importance of Life + Work Balance.
“My point is, life is about balance. The good and the bad. The highs and the lows. The pina and the colada.” ― Ellen DeGeneres
This year, I realized that in order to maintain my sanity (lolol), there should be a life + work balance. And as of the moment, I am still trying to learn the sorcery behind it so I can apply this magic into my life effortlessly this coming year. I'll do my best! :)
Thank you twinnie ChiChi for giving me a heads up about this always!
“Extremes are easy. Strive for balance.”
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2. The Real Meaning of Friendship.
“An acquaintance merely enjoys your company, a fair-weather companion flatters when all is well, a true friend has your best interests at heart and the pluck to tell you what you need to hear." - E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly
a. Because I was extremely hurt before when I had a "breakup" with a friend.. I became really wary of becoming close with other people. In order to prevent myself from being hurt again, I began to listen to others' warnings about other people... to be a loyal friend and to not get myself involved in others' drama. However, I think that doing that is not fair. Firsthand experience should be the one that considered.. instead of others' experience. :)
I learned that I can be a listener to a friend while being "neutral" at the same time. And just because other people's relationships did not work out quite well together, it does not automatically mean that it WILL also happen to me. Love > Judgment always wins. :-)
b. True friends will stick with you not only when the road is clear and you're doing great things. Real friends will be there when you get stuck in a place. They help you change your tires when those get deflated, figure out together what is wrong with your car's engine.. and just be there with you as you try to make things work.
Real friends understand and forgive each other even if there are moments when friendship slips away.. ^^
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3. Priorities change.
"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like." - Lao Tzu
People's priorities change. And it is okay. :) That is why you have to treasure every moment when you are ... in that moment with them. : D
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4. Times will always be hard and it is up to you if you will let yourself harden as well.
"Storms make trees take deeper roots." - Dolly Parton
Times can get really, really tough but never let those times harden you to become a robot without emotions. Tough times should make one "tough".. tough enough to fight.. not "hard enough" to turn into another person / monster robot.
I came to another breaking point this year when I got so stressed about my work, my personal goals, everything... and then for a few weeks, I felt like I became a "trying hard" robot who thought she could do everything with a plan, if she sticked with it. Good thing that I am surrounded by precious peers who have made me realized that it is okay to be human and that adversities are the best time to learn,.. and you are definitely a "work-in-progress"...! I used to be the type of person who would find it hard to admit that she was wrong (because of pride?) but recently.. I think my maturity is leveling up more and more and I say sorry more when I am aware that I am at fault. And I mean it. : )
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6. Best effort > Perfection
"Strive for progress not for perfection."
I think that I am a pretty "organized" person (though I feel that I still have to improve my time management skills) and sometimes, I have the tendency to be too OC or a control-freak in certain situations. This year, I learned that best effort even if with imperfect output.. is still way BETTER than having the attitude to try to -perfect- things & forgetting to appreciate the real essence of reaching your dreams.... which would be: finding joy & truly enjoying the journey of life's trials and errors.
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7. To not lose sight of my crazy dreams.
“Some people see things that are and ask, Why?
Some people dream of things that never were and ask, Why not?
Some people have to go to work and don't have time for all that.” ― George Carlin
I can close my eyes to take a nap or a restful sleep.. but to choose to sleep when my mind is actually awake is to absolutely fool myself. There had been overwhelming times this year when I felt quite lost. And it is really true that the moment you are about to give up, that is when a miracle happens. Hang in there, Kaila! : )
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8. "Success" means more.
Success does not only mean that you can live your life the way you want it to be... but it may also mean making your life a "meaningful" one. This sounds so preachy but there is something about helping others + sharing your light with them when they are in the dark.
I was once in the dark & I even put out my own light / fire before.. and people helped me to be back on track. When I recovered and bounced back to be this Kaila, I realized that I'd like to pass this on to others too. : )
Throughout my life, many people have helped me to reach my dreams ... and I would like to do that too even with my own simple means. : )
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"How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours."
This year, I encountered a lot of challenges when it came to personal and work-related relationships. There was a time I felt that I was fooled and victimized again... until I realized that well, that is life. And life is life. You choose whether you are a survivor, or a victim. I am actually pretty glad that these kinds of hardships happened because it felt like I was being trained / prepared for great things ahead. :D
I learned that I should not let the situation blow up because of my defensiveness and natural instinct to react negatively. "Mindfulness" is going to be one of my top words from this day onwards. ^_^ Response > Reaction = the equation for a stress-free life.
Even if there are times when people would intentionally or unintentionally take advantage of my kindness, I should let go of my expectations that they should also do the same towards me. If they take it and abuse it, that is their problem.
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10. Great things are worth waiting for.
“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is "timing"
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.”
― Fulton J. Sheen
And lastly, I learned that being impatient and always acting on impulse will not always produce positive results. : )
Overall, I would say that 2014 has taught me a lot on how to be responsive + how to effectively response when it comes to difficult situations. I think that these learnings would be really handy for bigger challenges this 2015. Fiiiighhhhht! : D
I guess that would be all for now~ wow, such a lengthy post again, haha!
How about you? What did you learn this year? Please do share your thoughts & experiences below! ^_^
Thank you all for being part of my 2014 journey,
Tough cookie & softie at heart Kaila