I have a slightly sad news for you.
There is going to be someone who is younger, fresher, more beautiful, brighter, more talented and skilled, richer, more attractive than you. She / He is way betterrrrr than you.
But I have a great news for you too as well.
It doesn’t matter. These other people don’t matter.
Because you have your own beautiful journey and they have their own. And we should focus more on our own, rather than feeling threatened by others.
For this blog entry, I will share about my personal story about the way I deal with my own insecurities… and maybe some tips on how to overcome those negative feelings.
I think that even the most confident people out there, at some point in their lives, have felt insecure about themselves. And yesss, I am one of those humans. 😀
I used to feel insecure about the way I spoke and wrote in English. I felt that I wasn’t competitive enough. I feared being interviewed on the spot and being ridiculed because of my accent and wrong grammar.
I used to feel insecure about my own God-given physical features. I found my hair to be too curly or too big. I wished I had a nose with a higher bridge. I wished I had cheekbones than squishy cheeks.
I used to feel really sad whenever I gain a pound or two. How can other people maintain their desired weight and at the same time, eat what they love? Lord, why so unfair? 🙁
I used to feel insecure about my brains / level of intelligence. All of my siblings passed the biggest universities and they were even granted scholarships. I failed a lot of tests and all of my scores were just passing / barely passing (hi math and technical subjects).
I used to feel insecure when I learned that I was already replaced by another girl by an ex-boyfriend before in months time. I thought I wasn’t pretty enough or my “best” wasn’t enough. What the hell was wrong with me?
I used to feel insecure about my ~work here in Japan. I feared that people might be thinking I’m a bum who goes to Harajuku everyday + takes kawaii snaps for her blog.. and I was just someone who has a generous brother who can support her lifestyle.
I had all of these negative feelings in my life before and I didn’t know how to deal with them.. until one day, I decided to make an effort for myself, and not for others. For the sake of overcoming ill feelings, and not for the sake of validation.
I didn’t come up with a one-time big-time solution. It was more of a journey of learning to love myself more, and accepting that I am indeed enough. That I should be more appreciative instead because my blessings had been overflowing… but I was too busy to pick on my negative traits.
I learned that by acknowledging my own weaknesses and having a conscious effort to improve myself (for myself), I could overcome my insecurities because .. I have accepted myself fully already.