Kaila gives advice to a girl who is feeling hopeless

Hello everybody!

A few days ago, I received an email from a reader who is seeking for an advice from me. I thought that I should also share it here on my blog because I actually get a lot of messages with the same concerns about life / dreams / “how do I get out of this, I’m feeling unmotivated”…

I’m not sure if I’m the best person to answer this because I have to be honest, I’m still in the “struggling but be positive” phase. But of course, I’ll give it a try to give some helpful advice and tips! : )

Before we delve into that, let me share my favorite sakura photo. I’m not sure if these are cherry blossoms though, hehe! Still.. flowers.  :hug:

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Okay let’s start with her question!

(PS: I changed the real name of the person to Kawaii Girl hehe) ^^

Hi Kaila,

My nickname is Kawaii Girl and like you, I’m also a Filipina who is into kawaii and colorful stuff. I’ve been following (or stalking? xD) your wonderful blog for a while now and I saw a new light in Kawaii culture because of you. You see what I like reading about your blog most is the inspiring stories and empowering thoughts that you share with us readers. I feel encouraged to follow my dreams whenever I see you fulfil your goals one by one but the thing is.. for me right now.. I’m still not really sure what I really want to do with my life. I just quit a job that I never liked and I’ve been jobless for months now. Whenever I ask myself what is it that I wanted to do? I always become like this . . . I’m stuck. I’m a bit knowledgeable about image editing, and basic graphic creation stuff (I learned them coz I wanted to make anime wallpapers when I was younger) but not enough to pursue a career related to that. I know my interests lie in kawaii, anime, manga, games and other japanese-culture related stuff but I don’t know what is it that I can do now.. I’m grateful to have very supportive parents but being an only child, I can’t help but feel really guilty for not being able to give back to them.. :/ I’m turning 24 soon and I think I’m already having this quarter-life crisis. I believe I’m also undergoing depression for 3 years now (ever since I graduated) because I’m feeling so hopeless about my future..  If possible, could you give me and other people like me some advice about this kind of situation? I would really appreciate it even if you just create a blog post about this and even if you won’t directly answer to this email.. I hope you can spare some of your time to read this… I’ll be forever grateful if you do.. T^T

Thank you so much, and I will always support you and your future endeavours ^_^
– Kawaii Girl


Hello Kawaii Girl!

First of all, thank you for reading my blog! Readers like you inspire me more to continue sharing about my own learnings. ^^

If there is one quote that I would always tell myself during my “I can’t do this / I feel so hopeless” days.. it would be this:

I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.

– Michael Jordan

If this would be comforting to know.. I just want to let you know that I have been in that position. And sometimes, I do feel like- “I’m stuck.”. For me, you don’t have to “figure everything out” by age of 24. It’s not a matter of age, but a matter of having the right perspective and acknowledging your own strengths (which can be honed) and weaknesses (which can be converted into a strength too!).

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On Friendships & Successes

FUJI Q

Hello everyone! My body is still recovering from all the fun, screams, and rollercoaster rides we had in FUJI Q Highland. I thought that I would be 100% okay after the whole day of trying out the world’s craziest rides.. but the motion sickness came quite late after. Ackkk. ;_;

For today’s reflective post, this is something that I’ve been pondering for quite some time as well. I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this here on my blog but I had my third “FB detox” and just had a comeback again after 3 months? : )) I do facebook detox because I’m more productive when I use my “for work only” FB account. It feels good to be back though. I missed interacting with (more) people, haha! For some reason, I now use my FB account (since I have set it on public before) just for project-related announcements, etcetera.. Anyway, this is not the subject for this blog entry, lolol. I don’t even know why I wrote those, but there.. hahaha.


Whenever I think & reminisce my ~journey~ from a frustrated dreamer in Manila, and all the crazy things and the wonderful and not-so-wonderful people (God bless you all) I’ve met along the way to where I am now (who is still in the process of figuring / trying things out).. all I can say is.. “phew“. Or.. WOW.

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Give and Take + Setting Boundaries

Hello all! :”)

I hope you don’t mind another reflection paper-esque blog entry by yours truly. Haha!

I just feel like writing about the things I have learned the hard way for more than a year or so.

For me, composing blog entries such as this is my personal way of telling myself that ~

Wow, you’ve survived that not-so-good experience!“… : )

:hihi:

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I am the kind of person / friend who would really go out of my way for others / friends.

It is just my nature. That is how I express my care and love.

Sometimes, I do not even realize that I’ve become so gullible, to the point that I’ve given permission to people to take advantage of me / my kindness.

 As much as possible, I want to be, at the very least, nice / civil towards new acquaintances or possible friendships. And I’ve promised myself that I would try my best not to have any kind of judgment towards anyone… and sometimes, even if I have a bad feeling or felt wrong about someone, I would give them chances to prove me wrong and lots of benefit of the doubt. This is not me trying to be a “saint” or what. It’s because I have been judged wrongly before as well, and I know the feeling. And it sucked. And if people would really decide to abuse my kindness or sincerity, I would fight back / defend myself gracefully through distance / boundaries instead. Of course, these are the ideal values that I try to achieve.. and I’m human sometimes too.

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What I Learned This 2014

Hello everyone! こんにちは!

Finally, I can sit down and take a breath from everything.

I love days like this at home when I can have the time to do things for myself. : )

The past few weeks have been such a whirlwind! :ohnoes:

Learned this 2014

(unrelated photo above, lololol but yay KPP)

I was supposed to write down just “Top 5 Things I Learned This 2014” .. but I learned more… I guess? : )

… anyway, let’s start!  :tongue:


This 2014, I learned …

1. The Importance of Life + Work Balance.

“My point is, life is about balance. The good and the bad. The highs and the lows. The pina and the colada.” ― Ellen DeGeneres

This year, I realized that in order to maintain my sanity (lolol), there should be a life + work balance. And as of the moment, I am still trying to learn the sorcery behind it so I can apply this magic into my life effortlessly this coming year. I’ll do my best! 🙂

Thank you twinnie ChiChi for giving me a heads up about this always!

“Extremes are easy. Strive for balance.”

★ ★ ★ ★ ★

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