A few days ago, I received an email from a reader who is seeking for an advice from me. I thought that I should also share it here on my blog because I actually get a lot of messages with the same concerns about life / dreams / “how do I get out of this, I’m feeling unmotivated”…
I’m not sure if I’m the best person to answer this because I have to be honest, I’m still in the “struggling but be positive” phase. But of course, I’ll give it a try to give some helpful advice and tips! : )
Before we delve into that, let me share my favorite sakura photo. I’m not sure if these are cherry blossoms though, hehe! Still.. flowers. :hug:
Okay let’s start with her question!
(PS: I changed the real name of the person to Kawaii Girl hehe) ^^
My nickname is Kawaii Girl and like you, I’m also a Filipina who is into kawaii and colorful stuff. I’ve been following (or stalking? xD) your wonderful blog for a while now and I saw a new light in Kawaii culture because of you. You see what I like reading about your blog most is the inspiring stories and empowering thoughts that you share with us readers. I feel encouraged to follow my dreams whenever I see you fulfil your goals one by one but the thing is.. for me right now.. I’m still not really sure what I really want to do with my life. I just quit a job that I never liked and I’ve been jobless for months now. Whenever I ask myself what is it that I wanted to do? I always become like this . . . I’m stuck. I’m a bit knowledgeable about image editing, and basic graphic creation stuff (I learned them coz I wanted to make anime wallpapers when I was younger) but not enough to pursue a career related to that. I know my interests lie in kawaii, anime, manga, games and other japanese-culture related stuff but I don’t know what is it that I can do now.. I’m grateful to have very supportive parents but being an only child, I can’t help but feel really guilty for not being able to give back to them.. :/ I’m turning 24 soon and I think I’m already having this quarter-life crisis. I believe I’m also undergoing depression for 3 years now (ever since I graduated) because I’m feeling so hopeless about my future.. If possible, could you give me and other people like me some advice about this kind of situation? I would really appreciate it even if you just create a blog post about this and even if you won’t directly answer to this email.. I hope you can spare some of your time to read this… I’ll be forever grateful if you do.. T^T
Thank you so much, and I will always support you and your future endeavours ^_^
– Kawaii Girl
Hello Kawaii Girl!
First of all, thank you for reading my blog! Readers like you inspire me more to continue sharing about my own learnings. ^^
If there is one quote that I would always tell myself during my “I can’t do this / I feel so hopeless” days.. it would be this:
I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.
– Michael Jordan
If this would be comforting to know.. I just want to let you know that I have been in that position. And sometimes, I do feel like- “I’m stuck.”. For me, you don’t have to “figure everything out” by age of 24. It’s not a matter of age, but a matter of having the right perspective and acknowledging your own strengths (which can be honed) and weaknesses (which can be converted into a strength too!).