Since it is still fitting to blog about love (it is February after all), I thought of writing about one of my highly-requested topics from my female readers… and it is about how to fully move on / get over your past. : )
Doodled above are just some of my tips on how to move on.
I’m far from a “relationship” expert so I am just sharing what I did to fully heal & become this happy life-lovin’ gal that I am now. : )
I promised myself before that once I am fully healed from the hurt and resentments.. I would share it to others.
And you know me.. once I feel that my life lessons can help others too, I wouldn’t hesitate to share my struggle-turned-success stories. ^^
Just to give you guys a background of my situation (since we all have different kinds of love, hehe~).. I’ve had one serious relationship before. I’ve had few infatuations / crushes here and there (do Korean boyband members count? LOLOL. It’s hard to move on when they get new girlfriends haha) and basically that’s just it.. so far (lololol). I cannot remember how many years it has been but we don’t talk anymore (I think it’s the best for the both of us). We got together before I moved to Japan (around 4 years ago?), and had a long distance relationship for a year or so. Since it was my first ever commitment (never thought I would, at 19 haha. that’s how of a planner I am when it comes to my life lol).. I kinda took it hard. Of course, rejections in any FORM.. would sting & can be painful. Rejections can make a person feel bitter and insecure, and it’s normal. But what I’ve learned is.. that kind of feeling shouldn’t be dragged too long. I also had an ideal perspective about relationships (that my first boyfriend would also be my last.. or “the one”).. but I guess, it does not apply to everyone. And some people do get into a couple of relationships before meeting the person they are meant to be with. It’s a case-by-case basis for each person I guess. : )
I am the type of girl who’d take “commitment” seriously. And I wouldn’t easily fall in love with someone I wouldn’t imagine to be part of my future (I weigh all the pros and cons haha). I would rather be single in my twenties than have a complicated series of love life (lololol series??).. I guess that’s just really me, and I’m being unapologetic about it. And honestly, I am having fun with my current work and daily activities. Basically I just treat the love life part as an addition. I used to also think that life would be “complete” if you had a special someone with you to celebrate special days and whatnots. But not anymore. : )