How To Overcome Your Uphill Battles (a.k.a. Surviving Your Downtime)

you can do it

This is Kaila’s how-to guide for overcoming your personal demons. May this also serve as a reminder for my future self who is bound to face more challenges in life. ^^

If you are currently facing your personal demons (or yourself is becoming a frenemie to yourself again), I hope that my 5 suggestions on how to rise up again will open up your mind. ^^

♥ ♥ ♥

1. Are you currently unhappy right now because you feel you’re not enough? Feel & analyze your feelings. Look at your problem from another perspective. Try to not listen too much from the worst critic (which can be the unhappy version of you). Imagine having a friend who is so negative and discouraging. Would you still like to listen to this friend? Be a nice friend to yourself too! We all deserve nice and positive friends! : )

Got rejected? Lost a work opportunity? Failed a test even if you’ve done your best? Well, there’s still good news! It’s not because you are lacking. It just means that maybe, some things are not meant for you this time or better yet, you have greater things in store for you coming your way! KEEP THE FAITH. Don’t let one failure to stop you just for that one time. Being rejected from something does not mean that you are not meant for something that we called “greatness”. Continue on working on your dreams and allow bumps / challenges here and there that pause you from time to time. Look at these as opportunities to learn, to improve, and to become a better person. I remember the time I failed for the first time in university. Looking back, I think that right now, I am very thankful for that “tiny bump”. I became an irregular student but I met more people (whom I wouldn’t be able to meet if I did not become an irregular student) and I got to get a better grade the second time around. No matter how cliche it sounds, everything does happen for a reason. You don’t have to dwell on your bump longer and hurt yourself more. If you make mistakes, it means that you are learning. The latter is only applicable if you are willing to accept to learn though. So do take the learnings! Those are gems! : )

Continue reading


Thank you, 2015! 2016, let’s unlock more dreams!

Before this year ends soon (just 2 hours more to go for 2016), here’s a gratitude post / reflection paper about my crazy 2015!

rainbowholic-2015.jpg

I am thankful for 2015 for all the learnings and challenges that made me stronger than ever.

This year, I lost a very important person in my life. That “dark phase” really tested me and it made me realize a lot of things. That I also want to be like this person when I grow older. When Nanay (our family Nanny / superwoman) went to heaven, that period in my life really inspired and pushed me more than ever to continue my “upgraded” #lifegoal. She touched so many people’s lives just by taking care / looking out for them. I also want to do the same, even if my ways are unordinary / different. : ) And this coming 2016, I want to do more things and create more projects not just for myself, but more for others too. This will be my long-term goal / staple objective in everything that I will do in the future.

rainbowholic-2015.jpg

2015 made me realize how much I want to do the best of my best for my family back home + our growing Kawaii PH community (that has super BIG potential to grow exponentially)! I had a phone call with my mom just last week, and she was telling me about what she wants to do in the future (as she is contemplating of retiring from her insurance job). It felt so great to hear from her that she wants to fully support my “kawaii dreams” by helping me setup my Rainbowholic cafe in the future (which I am saving up for with all the work I am juggling right now). I had goosebumps when she told me her ideas about this cafe / place. I grew up witnessing my Mom and Dad being so compassionate and generous (to the point that they would still give to others, even if we’re already beyond negative.. TT_TT). We would even joke around about how my Mom could be the head of DSWD (department of social welfare & development) in the Philippines, lolol.

I am excited for the day we would open Rainbowholic Cafe (maybe a few years from now, who knows?), a kawaii cafe that is more than just being “visually cute” / instagram-worthy. Just like what my mom told me, we want it to be a place brimming with positivity and empowerment where we would hold activities / workshops / talks like about how to chase after your dreams (in any given circumstance whether you’re from the streets and the like), etc. from time to time. ;_; Anyway, I am just really happy & too excited to share these thoughts with you all. Maybe that by blogging about our crazy dream, the universe will conspire to help us! : )

This 2015 was such a blessed year for Kawaii Philippines / my kawaii family back home. We got invited by numerous companies / event organizers to promote kawaii culture (and our positivity movement). We were able to write and publish our FIRST book. We got featured in Tokyo Extra. Our community grew bigger and bigger. I met lots of amazing and talented people within this family. I got to collaborate with my friends to work on our mutual dreams together. I am thankful for everybody who contributed in whatever way they can for Kawaii PH to become what it is right now! 🙂

It was all hard work and the behind-the-scenes were crazy but… seeing those happy smiles and receiving overwhelming / “life-changing” testimonials about Kawaii PH just make all our sleepless nights and efforts WORTH it all. I am BEYOND excited for what’s in store this coming 2016! I hope you guys will continue to support us! :”)

Kawaii PH (work) changed my life for the better. After years of being passionate about this, my life became more meaningful with a greater purpose. I’m sure my teammates / our volunteers have the same sentiments. ^_^

……

I am glad that I am writing this mini “2015 year in review” blog post in a way that.. it’s not just all about me / my personal dreams unlocked (as it used to be before). This is actually exactly what I hoped 2015 to turn out!

Less of me and more of others.

I realized that during your most unhappy / gloomy moments, you can be also truly happy instantly by sharing your (remaining) sunshine and cloudy skies with others. And that I don’t really have to mind what others say about me or the things that I do, as long as I keep my eyes focused on my #lifegoal. : ) This year, I really took effort to “free” myself from other people’s opinion. I developed the skill of not getting sidetracked despite having people judging you for what you are passionately about. :”)

To my loyal Rainbowholic blog readers (please never get tired of waiting for all of my photos to load huhuhu), my real friends (who love me even if I’m Kaila Kardashian or emo Kaila, lels), fellow Kawaii PH community / family (YOU ALL ROCK!), and EVERYONE who made 2015 a memorable one, thank you so much from the bottom of my heart!

Cheers to the amazing 2016! Let’s own this year, once again!

Happy New Year, 皆さん!

Love, カイラ


2013, thank you. I wouldn’t have it in any other way.

2013 is probably the year I had the most highs and lows in life.

Hence, an influx of self-reflective posts from a person who does not even like to write in the first place. Woops.

(obligatory photo haha)

To think of it, I might have probably gotten 200 days of “I’m not feeling this / I feel bad” days and 165 of super highs and so-so days. Of course, it does not show in my facebook / instagram posts because I’m the type of person who focuses her energy more on the positivity.  Nevertheless, I am thankful for every good and bad day. I wouldn’t be able to become this appreciative of a person I am today if all the days were good! 🙂

This year, I learned so much. Not the hard way, I think every bit of it was learned the hardest way possible.. and I’m still thankful. : ) I’m really grateful to have met different kinds of people, got to know them and share a piece of me with them even though it’s just a hi or an hello opportunity.

I realized a lot of things about myself because of the circumstances that happened to me. A good friend once told me that life just happens to you.. and the only thing that you can control or get hold of is your attitude / way of thinking about that event. I couldn’t help but agree so. It’s just so true.

Anyway… I’d just like to share my thoughts of my super eventful & blessed 2013. Super kawaii 2013, lol.

2013, you taught me that..

(P.S. this is going to be random, don’t laugh haha! :yay: )

  1. Real happiness comes from within. Real kind of happiness cannot be found in material things, relationships and even in.. achievements, etc. Self-love is the most important. 🙂
  2. I don’t have to please everyone. And I don’t have to explain myself or my own actions/decisions.
  3. Sexiness is indeed a state of mind. During the start of the year when I was in Japan, I achieved my goal weight but what’s really weird was, I didn’t feel attractive / sexy in my about-to-become Miranda Kerr body (lol i wish), haha! After staying in the Philippines for almost half a year, true enough, I gained some of those pounds back BUT.. I have never felt sexiest in my whole life. I even smile back at my own smiling tummy now. : )))  (Try this good read about the 7 Sexy Character Traits of Happy People~)
  4. I shouldn’t stop learning /  studying / upgrading my skills. If you are passionate about something and you’ve been wanting to do it ever since, go for it. When I was younger, I really wanted to bake and do girly kitchen stuff but we didn’t have the means to do so (no oven huhu).. that’s why I’m really happy to discover new and been-wanting-to-do hobbies. 🙂
  5. Comparing oneself to another person is an unhealthy habit. My past self is my one and only competition. Everyone has his/her own kind of heaven and hell. And even purgatory, hehe. And I like my own set of heaven, purgatory and hell. : ))
  6. People are gonna think whatever they want to think about you. This year, I finally learned to stop caring and blocking off the hate / negativity coming  my way. These people do not know who the real me, where I’ve come from or coming from.. so their judgment is invalid unless I allow myself to be engulfed in their dislike, hehe~ (“Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So just do it, damn it” haha… wtf haha)
  7. Making your dreams come true can only happen when you step out of your comfort zone. I could have chosen to stay in Japan and do my usual work and enjoy a comfortable life but I decided to choose growth. People sometimes would wonder and question me why I even came back to the Philippines when I’m living the “good life” in Japan…. At first, I didn’t know what to say and just tell them I’m here for 6 months for vacation (or for driving, haha) but for some reason, I’ve always felt within me that I have a mission to complete. And I’m very passionate about it. It’s shallow to hear but I want to spread happiness in the medium I’m really familiar with / in love with… which is kawaii / cuteness. Hehe~
  8. There is really no “I” in “TEAM”. I love you, JapanLover.me Dream Tweam and Kawaii PH team. : )
  9. Being assertive is not a bad thing.  : )
  10. Thoughts are power. 

I think that I have more lessons learned to be listed down but here are the top 10. I love how my blog can either be too shallow (kawaii photospam and spazzing) or too deep such as my posts tagged us “thoughts”. Well, that’s Kaila for you. Haha~!

Happy, happy new year to you! Remember that every day (not just “the new year”) is an opportunity to improve and change your life closer to your ideal / dream one.

Thanks for being with me, I may not be able to reply back most of the time but I am thankful for being able to share my perspective and world to you.

Sincerely,

Kaila  :heart: